Notice that the day's worth of crying and "backsliding" you did was self inflicted. HE didn't do anything but change his tone. That could have been for many reasons, sure, likely the one you think BUT it could have been anything and you chose to dwell on it. This was a PERFECT time to practice detachment, and BTW, I don't see anything on your list about detaching a bit more. Have you read about/understood the way I mean detachment? You need to practice not letting HIS mood or change in tone set YOU off and cause YOUR mood to change or YOUR tone to change. I know it's hard but it would help you achieve your goals, both personal and where possible, relationship. When you are detached, you still love, and express love, you just don't follow him down the well of sadness, anger, bitterness, etc.
That said, sometimes you just need to let this stuff out. DON'T deny your feelings, just try to understand where they come from so that you can avoid or ignore the triggers that bring them on.
As for your list, VERY comprehensive, maybe too much so. Most of those things are great goals to have but I am afraid it will be hard to try to achieve them because there are so many. SO, which of those goals are for TODAY? This week? Which ones do you want to have accomplished by the end of April?
I think you are doing just fine. Like I said, pick a couple of the personal goals and set a time frame for them. The R goals cannot be based on a time frame but your personal changes that may lead to them can.
