Quote: You or anyone else out there: Please tell me everything you know about DBing as it relates to snooping.
I can't really tell you what DBing says about snooping, but I can tell you what I think. DON'T DO IT unless a lawyer says you have to in order to gather evidence to be used in divorce proceedings. Otherwise it will just give you nightmares. SO much of what you will find is TOTALLY out of context of reality, and your H even knows it but when you read it, it WILL BECOME your reality. You WILL believe everything you read and it will haunt you. You already know enough to make decisions. Knowing more will NOT make things easier for you unless you are just looking for the one thing, say that they ML on your birthday or something, that REALLY crosses the line and will instantly make you end things with him. Other than that, and I am not too sure THAT'S a good reason, don't do it.
I did it twice in my sitch and I fully regret both times. Once was just to see if OM called my W, and the other was reading texts that HE sent HER. I was devastated for weeks and this was at a time when I could have been making REAL progress on myself instead of worrying about something I ALREADY knew was going on.
Others may have different advice, but mine is to NOT get those emails translated. Curiosity will pull at you, but don't let it win.
