Do you mean that If I keep the money and she has to pay that's alright? She won't be totally upset in your eyes? If I let her have the money that she needs to pay would that mean that I'm "In the loop?" I'm totally confused. This tax guy is a friend of hers. Meeting him was kinda weird. He asked if we're going to get divorced. I said yeah with a I think I suppose kinda voice and tone. Then I told him that I'm there to talk about taxes and nothing else. Later on he asked me what I'm up to. I just told him that I'm working out but not mentioning the details like how much weight I'm using or that matter. But he's a buddy of my W's. I took my W2's from him to ensure that nothing would be done behind my back. I told him I'm gonna think about which route to go. He did emphasize that we should file separately and I pay my W back what she owes. I feel kinda pressured from him and my W. Either way. Without the pressure from them. What should I do to be sure that no more bridges are burnt?