Sorry to echo the other posters, but I have to say that you still feel the need to respond to everything she says or does and everything you say or do is to "turn the tables" on her or get her to see your point of view. I would venture to say that one of the issues in your marriage, at least from her point of view, is your need to always be right. If it wasn't before, it is now. YOU ARE NOT RIGHT. Nothing you say, think or do is "right" to her, and anything you think, do or say that is opposite of her thoughts, feelings or actions IS WRONG to her. The sooner you understand that, the sooner you'll get that arguments, texting her, leaving books, etc, all designed to get her to see things YOUR way (because after all it IS just your way, NOT the right way) are counterproductive in getting her back.
NONE of what we are telling you is written in stone. We are only relating what our experiences are and what the books say (not only DB/DR but others as well).
I hope your next post does not have anything like A friend mentioned that I may be coming off very needy and 'psycho' to her. So I text'd that I may seem needy and such but I am having fun with life. And I don't need her to feel great. There's plenty of women that'll be glad to be with me. She responded by saying...in it. I hope you find a way to do some things that do not involve this sitch. You really need that, but please, DO IT FOR YOU, do not do it because if your W finds out, she'll be jealous or angry or happy or whatever. Don't worry about what she thinks, and DON'T tell her you're not worried.
