Help. I took a leap of faith

[RBinBR]

Man, I'm sorry that you and your W have been through so much.

I'm going to be blunt and suggest that you get another copy of Divorce Remedy and read it again. You need to start over at the beginning.

You are pursuing your W relentlessly, which is no-no #1.

You are pressuring her to read the books, change her therapist (or allow you to meet with her), and call your parents.

STOP pressuring her now! In fact, stop texting or calling her now! The only reason you should contact her is if there is an important financial issue or something that can't wait, and even then you should try to avoid contacting her.

What are you doing to change your life and become a better person? You cheated on her when you kissed that girl in the bar. How does she know that won't happen again? And why shouldn't she cheat if you're going to? And don't tell her that you'll never do it again -- change and become a better person and let her see that.

Quit drinking! It's clear that your alcohol use has become a problem for you. You used to smoke weed, and now it seems that you've changed your drug of choice.

Work on getting a better career. You said that ethics was a problem for you and that cost you a good job. What have you done about that? Are you doing anything to become a better person so that something like that never happens again?

Do you have any religious beliefs? If so, then I suggest that you go to church. If not, then you need to figure out some kind of code that you intend to live your life by and start following it.

You need to fix your life before your W is going to want to be a part of it.