This morning was quiet. W didn't say much to me but was coordial.
D10 talked about hwo one of her friends parents are divorced and her mom is getting married. Of course this upsets her.
Was checking in to HardHead's posts. I recall a few months ago when his W 'Finally broke' and his postings from then. I see now he is in mediation. I guess you never really can know. One thing he said that I think I can relate to is this"
Quote: I have finally realized I was creating so much pressure for her to love me that it was impossible for her to do so. Finally, in January I decided to truly let her go, no longer as a strategy to get her back (although I would love that), but as a strategy for sanity.
The result is that we have a much better relationship than we have ever had, even before the marriage. There is no sexual aspect to the relationship, but we are honoring and respecting each other. In the process she is realizing, FINALLY, many of the things that she has done to erode the relationship (I came to my realizations a long, long time ago).
I feel that is where I must be going. Even though I know in my heart she loves me, she is so lost in herself, and everything I do FOR her looks like trying to hold on to her.
And, I'm her 'best friend'. How do I be that now?
I think I should move my thread to 'MLC' or 'Separated'. I don't belong in Piecing any longer.
