Quote: This morning she asked me if 'something is wrong' and I said Nope, I'm all good.
Now, that's the way it's done.
Frank, I've been thinking about your sitch because I, too, struggled with detaching. It seems both you and I just had one goal in mind, and that was to hear that our spouses wanted to be with us. After that, we'd worry about just how to do that. So, I have a question for you: If your wife came to you today and said, "Frank, I love you. I want to be with you," BUT nothing else changed, how long would you last in the relationship? Be honest here, Frank. You see, for so long I waited for some sign that my H was going to check back in. I thought that if his ring went back on that all would be good. Would it? No. So many other things have to change. I feel the same way about you. So much, other than just the words that your wife wanted to make things work would have to change. They aren't, and she has no motive to make that happen. I think that it is awful and selfish for her to expect that you will just stay status quo until summer. She has friends, she has a dad...can't she move in with them? O.K., you may not be ready for that step. But, when you doubt what you are doing, please ask yourself if this is really what you want for the rest of your life. You deserve so much more, and I don't think that you really believe that.
