ok, I'm going to start short entries keeping updates about my actions and her responses. As Becca, Amy, Spitfire has pointed out, she needs to lose me and the stability I represent. I am supportive and generous. And, I am attractive in the ways she likes.
so there are 2 choices. (1) Make her move out. She says she wants to by summer, she will supposedly have enough money to do it. The likelyhood of her growing her business that quickly is slim to none. In 3 months she'd have to increase her revenue by at least 12 clients. 3 new ones per week and of course, the current ones have to come too. (2) Detach in a very serious way and when she talks aboutmoving out, ask how you can help her do it. This method could make her feel like she's losing someone important.
So tonite I stayed away from the house when W was around. When I came home she was pleasant. She had just put D10 to bed and walked past me on the stairs, looked at me and smiled. I smiled back. I went into my room and put on the pajamas and did NOT go downstairs.
So now I hear her watching TV, something we have done nightly. I am staying here in my room and journaling. Detach and ye shall be free. She hasn't any reason to think I'm mad at her . This morning she asked me if 'something is wrong' and I said Nope, I'm all good.
She can watch tv alone. This is the way it was in the beginning of this whole thing, the first 2 months we did not go in the same room together. Now she's comfortable and so am I. But I wont go. The balance of energy has to change.
