I made a list of my thoughts and things to do to move on. I'm sad, anxious, afraid and lonely. I wish I didn't have to do this. I have to do this.
What am I not letting go of? W. Let her go. If it's going to happen it's going to happen because I let her go - for real. Accept that she is gone, that she is probably not coming back.
Shut off my interactions with her. Don't be interested in anything she has to say. Set BOUNDARIES. Just BE.
I'm saying goodbye to her in my heart. It's me and the girls, the girls and me
It's selfish to hold on to her. Hurts not just me but the girls and to some extent her too. I've shown her who I am. She knows it. Now, she needs to miss it. Staying this way we are both trapped. This is holding me back.
I CHOOSE to feel what I feel. I choose to feel BETTER.
Make life choices that do not include her She is responsible for her own happiness - not me. This is the end of the marriage - move on
Focus on frank and have faith that I deserve something better.
Start my new life without her. Even if I have to pretend at first.
Be firm, committed to what I am doing.
If asked why I am changing my attitude, tell her this isn't working for me and I need to move forward.
