Quote: Your wife makes me angry. I am not at all bewildered by her BS. Been there, done that and have the wrecked marriage to prove it. I do stand by every statement I made but I want to concentrate more on you now. She's "out there" honey and you can't reach her. Until the real world literally comes up and spits in her face and she DEALS with her personal issues she will run as far and as fast as she can.
Why does everyone keep acting like she's just some runaway girl? Did you ever think that maybe she REALLY DID STOP LOVING ME and is just trying her best to move on with her life? Maybe to recapture some of those years of her life when I was a f*cking loser and didn't or wouldn't feel?
It doesn't matter that I've changed, I'm just not what she wants any more. It didn't work out. Why do we put ourselves through this? Isn't this our fantasy as much as they have theirs?
We don't accept what we are presented with as factual. That it's just the way it is.
Quote: Kick her out of the nest. Then set about restoring yours and the girls' lives to some sort of normalcy. It will be ALL NEW, for sure, but it CAN be normal.
First I'll detach and give her the opportunity to feel what it is like without my support. Then wait a few weeks to see if she goes on her own. Maybe she'll change her mind but it doesn't seem likely.
Quote: You can do this, Frank. And hopefully, someday she will wake up and it won't be too late.
I just do NOT see this. 'wake up'? The feelings have ended. The marriage is over. How can I interpret this any other way? Wake up from what? Sure she's not being very smart about her choices but that doesn't mean that leaving me is a BAD choice.
I'm just being selfish because I want her. I am not seeing the truth.
So, what do I do now? I guess I detach completely. I can be a decent 'friendly' man and still show my caring side. I will reaffirm my 'Alpha Male' self in this family so the kids feel safe.
I will let her out of my heart. I KNOW she will probably react to me when I detach, she has every other time. This time I'll STAY THERE because I'll get sucked in long enough to get hurt when she pulls away again.
God, I'm not much of an inspiration to anybody here any more. I"m sorry. I did all I could do. I did.
