Hey Frank, Hope you and family have an OK day today...I know it's tough. Glad to see you so strong.
I know that D15 is just a kid, but in a way, she's very observant in a way you can't be. Also, she's your kid, and like you said, time to take the family back...in a way, she was telling you how all this made HER feel...kinda unstable house.
I agree with Amy (esp. since she's been in the driver's seat) and others. Time to LET GO. For real this time. Be nice, cause you're a nice guy, but it sounds like your W is really spoiled. She also has low self-esteem and doesn't have a good concept of reality...life without you. If she can't make ends meet to live in the same house as you, how does she think it's gonna happen on the outside.
Whatever her reasons, they are hers and she seems set. Whatever, not your problem anymore. You stay focused, grounded and get the alpha male back. If she wants to leave, let her...
You've tried the loving detachment and she's still pushing...so just do nice detachment.
There is only so much of this you can take before it gets toxic for you and family. Right now, this isn't about YOU, it's about her and only she can sort that out. You're a respectful guy, so give her space and time.
I'm getting to that point myself. I am in loving detachment mode, and see progress, sort of, and I also understand that I did a LOT to hurt H and this is a direct result of it....but, at the same time, I can't go on much longer like this...while he still lies and sees whomever he wants...I trust I'll know if the time is right.
