Well, you'd all be proud of me. W was very very tired when she got home. She had promised D10 she would read to her and when she came upstairs she ran into my room and jumped onto my bed. Which is of course THE most comfortable bed in the house. The master bed. She misses it a lot since she sleeps on a crappy mattress on the floor in her room downstairs. She doesn't have any money to buy a bed, and won't ask me for money.
She lay there with her eyes closed, moaning at how much she missed te bed. How good it felt since she was sore from doing so many massages today. How her legs hurt. Feet hurt.
Being a nice guy, I offered to let her sleep there and I'd sleep on the couch. She said that wasn't fair to me because the couch is uncomfortable. So then I said she could sleep in the bed WITH me. I said "Don't worry, the kids have NO ILLUSIONS about us so it wouldn't be hard to explain."
She didn't say anything and I just politely turned and left the room. I saw D10 and told her to read with mom in MY room because mom was sore. So they read on MY bed.
A little later (10:30) W was lying on the couch watching TV. She said she was just staying up for a few minutes so she could give Captain (Our African Grey Parrot) some time out of her cage. She asked me if maybe I was going to sit on the couch - here - by where her feet were, and watch tv so I could stay in the room with the bird for a little while and she could go to bed. I said ok and sat down by her feet.
She gave me the remote but stayed on the couch. A couple times she would give out a quiet 'moan' of pain from her legs and feet. I KNOW she wanted me to massage her feet. She gave me that 'look' and a smile when I looked towards her. But she didn't put them on my lap or anything to give me a 'hint'.
So,I smiled back and did nothing. She did this a couple of times and both times I smiled at her. But did nothing.
She didn't get pissed or anything at me. She was just tired and wanted to be pampered. Didn't happen. I didn't 'take the hint'.
If she had ASKED I MAY have done something. But she didn't, she wanted ME to OFFER.
One thing D15 also said earlier was that W is spoiled because she gets whatever she wants around here.
Well not any more.
So she laid around a bit and finally, with much groaning, she went to bed. No saying of 'sweet dreams' like last nite. No more games. No friendlyness. AmyC and now D15 both say 'push her out of the nest'. Well she got a nudge.
I'm going to start by not being a nice guy who is always there for her. Whether or not she actually 'leaves the nest' doesn't matter. She is going to FEEEL like she did from now on.
