W generally does have integrity, and her core values are loving and nurturing. They just seem to be focused on her. I don't think she sees herself 'taking', or at least what she does see, meaning the 'free living with me' she doesn't like. She would prefer to be able to live on her own and be self sufficient.
I'm sure she has 'forgotten' the feelings from when we first met. I'm still trying to understand the reason she gave for us ending the week we had of being close and intimate. "Because I stoppped taking care of myself and working on my business". So, hugging, sitting close watching tv and occasional good sex prevents her from pursuing her career?
Quote: I was at this point (detached and looking to the future without H), by the way, when my H decided that he did love me, after all, and wanted to remain in the M. I was almost disappointed since I had huge plans for my future, when single, and had to rethink everything. I hope your W (and all other WAS's on this board) come to their senses before it's too late, and we LBS's have moved too far down the road of detachment to come back.
hmm. I don't want to hope any more because it affects my behavior. I don't know WHAT is going on with her any more, other than she doesn't want to be married to me. She doesn't hate me, actually loves me and has a 'connection' that she could explain away as something she has with 'lots of people'.
She also made a comment about how she needed to be able to be OK being alone BEFORE she would deal with any possible relationships. I guess because she got burned so bad by OM.
I really don't want to be 'alone' or 'in the market'. I know I'm a good man, even W knows that. This seems to be the best thing to do right now. Act 'as if' and be the Alpha male - in charge, confident. Start making my life 'without her'.
I'm glad that when you did this your H 'woke up'. I am afraid to have that hope because it will affect my detachment. Better to go on as if it's over, I think.
