Well thismorning much of the same, distant and blah. I was upstairs and she was leaving to go on her excercise walk and she called upstairs in her 'neutral' voice 'Bye Frank I'll see you later'. I replied in a similar way. Then I had a thought.
I ran down stairs and she was still there by the door getting her music player set up. I walked right up to her and gave her a big hug and sayed "I just want to let you know how much I APPRECIATE you for taking care of the family while I'm working late like this". She hugged me back and said that 'we appreciate how hard you work too'. I replied "Well I just want to make sure I let you know you're appreciated, sometimes I forget and don't tell you".
It was a nice hug. I let go and she said 'bye, see you later' and there was a difference in her voice, a little happier.
I spoke to her a few minutes later and she was more 'up' and happy. Possible because of her walk, but still...
So, it's often like that. She gets slowly on a downward spiral, wants her life to change, doesn't reach out to me, starts thinking she has to move on.
Then I either tell her she will be great, that I believe in her, that she is a great person. Or I see anopportunity to give her a hug (without asking) and transfer some love to her. It usually brings her out of her funk - for a little while.
Now she's in a 'middle of the road' mood again. Don't know what she is thinking any more. Oh well. One thing for sure, my intuitive self knows when to 'act'. Now it's time to withdraw again and take it away. Sigh.
Counselor will have her work cut out for her today.
