Hi Frank - I recall being in a somewhat similar situation, where I had done far more processing than NG had, and it was beyond frustrating that he was taking so long to arrive at what I felt was an inevitable point - re-committing to the M. Being around him during his moments of truth were more painful than necessary. I second your notion, safer to be away from her tonite, though you might want to make sure she knows you will be late, so it does not become yet another illustration of you 'not being there'.
