I agree with NewJohn that your wife wants to "ctrl-alt-delete" her problems away.
But I disagree that her moving out would be a drastic move. You know what I think about this, Frank, so it should come as no surprise when I say I think she's going to have to have reality tossed right in her lap before she really grabs a clue what she'd be losing.
I'm sorry and I know I will likely be in the minority on this one but I think she needs to be shown the door. I DO think she will return, though, once she realizes what she has done. You're enabling her to stay in her fantasy world where all would be perfect if she just had a divorce. BS!!!! Show her what's on the other side of the door. It ain't pretty and she'll learn to appreciate you in such a way that she never forgets. I'd bet on it.
I know it's a leap of faith. I also know you will think it through thoroughly and make a wise decision and no matter what it may be, FWIW I'll support you.
