Life goes forward

[NewJohn]

Sometimes I think it may be better for all of us if she leaves.

You don't really believe that do you? What would be better for all of you is if she found her way out of her emptiness first if at all possible. I know that doesn't seem to be happening despite all the time, but there has been so much progress in your sitch.

You are in the middle of all this, so your perception is probably different, but according to all your posts, she sure doesn't seem to *really* want a D. At least not to me. Keeps mentioning it as an answer to her problems, but I don't get the feeling that she can make that plunge. She is unsure of what the answer really is, so instead she thinks a divorce will "ctrl-alt-delete" her problems away. (Can't isolate a problem, then just reboot everything...) But it's too drastic of a solution...can't do it.

NewJohn