Quote: AmyC: Maybe you could have a casual talk D15 at some point in the next day or so and let her know you didn't appreciate her mouthing off in front of "company". Just handle it that way and don't dwell on the stuff she doesn't understand in the first place....
I did that tonite. I told her that I know she didn't mean to hurt me but that when she said those things I felt like she was saying I wasn't being a very good Dad. I said "gee, you know if I hung around with 'the girls' I'd go crazy!" She laughed and said she was sorry and she wouldn't do it again.
Tonite W asked if we could go to the familys favorite restaurant (Mongolian Barbecue) which is about 35 minutes away. It's kind of dumpy and small but the food is excellent. We have been going there since we were dating. 20 years. Wow.
Both our kids have 'grown up' going there as babies till now, once every few months. The Waitresses, who have been there for 8-10 years know us well and have watched our kids grow up.
It's kind of 'our family thing'. In fact, when W told the kids we would be doing things separately with them when we told them we were getting divorced, the first thing D15 said was 'Well I guess we won't be going to Mogo's any more, it wouldn't feel right with one of you missing.'
Sure the food is good, but there's something more to it than that. There are nice restaurants where we live that we like to go to and are much closer. It's kind of weird. And, we've been going about once every 3 weeks lately. Either one of the kids asks or W 'really wants to go'. It's sort of 'comfort food'.
So, this morning she wrote me a note asking if we could go.
We went, ate, came home. It was nice. W seems exhausted and when she was telling me something she accidentally called me 'sweetie'. Oops. Still no physical contact though and still distant most of the time. Another day goes by...
