Got home and her friend was still here so it's an overnite. Set up another bed in W's room so they can stay up, read their 'destiny cards' and other stuff like that.
I'd call it really 'girl stuff' except that the 'intepretations' will be colored with the attitudes and beliefs of her friend. Well, she's stayed over before when there was OM to talk about, and he's gone. So, whatever happens is temporary.
When I got home they were all watching a movie (about 8 pm) and W acknowledged my presence. She seemed a bit perturbed about something. I later found out it had been a tough day, kids were bratty and her friend and her have no control over them sometimes. They bring it on themselves though, they have spoiled them to be that way when she's around. Anyway, it was a little chilly so I started a nice fire. Couple times looked in W's direction and she gave me a 'warm' smile. Other than that most interactions with her were strained. But I know that it's mostly because she was really tired of putting up with the kids all day.
A really weird thing. Got a call from 'T', the guy who is the owner of the massage business that does the hawaii retreats and that she is getting a partnership with. He's a pretty nice guy and he wants me to do some work on his website.
We got to talking about stuff since he and his female partner spent last week with W and it was so interesting how so many things he had to say matched Counselers observations. (He's a counselor also, but not as credentialed and experienced as mine)
Anyway, he's always been a litle cautious and said 'prepare yourself for the divorce so you aren't caught off guard. He also said that "there are some people in 'the group' who don't think it's over for you guys." But right now W does.
"The Group" is a group of about 5 people who work the various workshops with him and his partner. So they know W from those workshops and think her irrational actions are all because of confusion, and her now strong belief that she has to be free and independent' which means being single.
So, while he says that only W will figure out what she wants in her life and she needs time to process.
He hadn't talked to me for about a month and said he was really impressed at how I have developed the 'feminine' (emotion) side of me. W had told him the famliy was all right and that you were keeping everyone so they felt safe.
He said that he could hear in my voice a strength and confidence, way better than when he first started talking to me about this situation back in november.
His most interesting comment was that "quite a few people believe that your marriage is not over. And they are 'rooting' for you and her to fix yourselves and be together. He says (and so does my counselor) that he could see that W operates from her feminine side and that I operate for my masculine side. That makes us unbalanced. She is learning to get that balance by usig her masculine (logical) side in starting this business. I a useing my Feminine side to re-learn how to be an "Uplifting peson"
That made me feel good. Overall a very positive conversation from someone who has an influence in her life.
So, she could be peeking out from her isolation this week. she made it past the first part, she got the job,.
I know she'll be alright, maybe an up cycle wil start? Just finished up a full moon....
