I wasn't worried about not being aroused; I know I can feel aroused. Nor did I blame him for my lack of arousal; I don't believe it's his job to arouse me.
I asked if it was dishonest to "act" like I was aroused, in light of the flak generated by the faking O question.
Regarding arousal in general, please see my "books" thread... while suffering from ED, my bf cannot experience arousal-- the physical feedback isn't there for him. It is the physical feedback (the E) that tells a guy that he is aroused and wants sex. Without the E, he isn't getting the signals from his body that he wants sex. Therefore, he doesn't want it. Without an E, he has to push himself to want sex, and at the same time overcome his shame at not having an E. Don't know if he is motivated enough to do this. I know I'm not motivated enough to make sex happen most or all of the time.
