Mo, I get what you're saying, I am just saying it doesn't apply in my situation. Whether the celibacy was forced upon me, or I chose it myself, all I'm saying is that I would *never* think, Hey I'm okay with this. I may think, "this is what I have to do in order to make a better life for myself" or something like that, but I would hate every minute of the celibacy aspect of it!
As far as whether I'd be happy or unhappy, I can say with 100% certainty that I'd be unhappy. It is part of who I am and, furthermore, a part of myself that I *enjoy*, regardless of whether anyone else is currently enjoying it with me.
If I'm unhappy with myself (as I would be were I to lose my sex drive), then I'm sure that would filter down into the R and my unhappiness would show up there.
I think my point is that, for some of us, the idea of "I'd be happy if I was single and not having sex, so why does it bug me so bad now?" is simply not true. I'd be climbing the walls and VERY eager to get back into a relationship so I could resume that part of my life again. For me, it's the same whether I'm in an R or not--lack of sex makes my life incomplete.
