Mojo asks The Big Question

[MJontheMend]

Personally, the thought "I'd be okay with enforced celibacy if I was single so why am I not okay with it now" because I'd never have that thought in the first place.

I would never be okay with "enforced" celibacy either, but I want to be okay with making choices for myself that might include or result in celibacy. I don't want to feel like I "need" to be in a relationship with a man because if I don't "need" to be in a relationship, I can better insure that I "want" to be in a relationship.

If you woke up tomorrow and your sex drive had suddenly disappeared would you be happier or less happy in your relationship? I think it could go either way. You might be happier, for instance, because you would no longer feel the need to work at your relationship in order to get laid. You might be less happy because you might discover that your sexual attraction to your spouse was a good part of what made the relationship valuable to you.