I understand what your saying. We are at the same table on this just on different sides.
Truthfully I think for some looking at what they have it can be enough to satisfy them even though there is a cost of something they wish they had or is missing. For others though what they have is not enough to satisfy them and what is missing holds to large of a value to them or is to large of a part of them to continue doing without.
I stand at this crossroads myself. Up to now the cost of my freedom has been to much for me to bear. My everyday interactions with my kids since I know at least one will stay with him. To keep what I have the cost has been worth hat I have to give up. Until now that was enough for me. But the winds of change as be are shifting on this dynamic in my mind right now. Causing me to re evaluate my sitch and my decisions and making me loony and disjointed as my thread shows.!