I understand everything you said. But the question was how one could choose to do without sex if divorced yet it be such a issue to not have sex while married. That was the only aspect I was answering. The question did not included not having EC or feeling desired. So my answer just addressed the question at hand dealing with the sex part. I think that answer for JJ was a turning point to find satisfaction or resolution to see that all the things she had with her H was not worth the cost of giving up for the one thing they did not have a rampant sex life. You yourself I think are at the same crossroads. You can see all of what you have not just the thing that lacks in your relationship and are trying to decided if that is enough. Or do you want to discard it in hopes of maybe one day finding it all.
