Hmmm... Corri, could you spell that out a bit more?... I know the meaning is more important to me than the sex... I really want to understand your point, but it has skidded off my dense skull.
Also, I had a thought earlier today, as an Enneagram Seven, Mojo is more readily able to distract herself from uncomfortable situations than those of us who are Meaning-Seeking Navel-Gazing Fours (me, karen, IHJ).
So JJ, theoretically it would be easier for you, as a Seven, to distract youself from the meaning you previously associated with your husband's failure to initiate sex. And you have referred several times to day trading, gardening, etc. -- all activities that have functioned to successfully distract you in a positive way; the net effect being that you feel happier not thinking about the negative meaning you used to spend so much time dwelling on.
BUT, interestingly-- and I don't know if this is relevant or not-- your husband is a Four... right before you went to Alaska, Jenny, I posted something I read somewhere about how it's hard for a man to be a Four in our society. It's more permissible for a woman to be the melancholy romantic than for a guy.
