Very similiar, but in my case my H didn't really give up his "rock star" life, and I didn't want him too, I knew that was really important to him, and was proud of what he did, the problem was that he let that freedom roll into all of his life, and I never said whoa when it got to be too much for me! He didn't really have a problem with partying and never did other drugs, just smokes A LOT of pot, which for him is not a good thing. At least he is recognizing that it has an effect on him and is addressing it in therapy.
