I know what you are saying, BeingMe, re: how our WAS are totally different right now. Sometimes when I look at my H I don't even recognize him, he's just out there right now. And about the counseling, Hope80, I feel pretty good about the one we/he is going to, I actually called her myself, because we are approaching it as he needs individual counseling for all of the stuff he is trying to deal with, and then we will go together as well. So, I told her that I am concerned about him making any decisions re: our marriage because of his MANY issues with his whole life, gave her some background on our sitch, and she agreed with me, particularly with the fact that my kids and I just uprooted and moved away to be with him. So, fingers crossed and we'll see.
My PMA is high (today), because not only do I absolutely know that he loves me, I also know that I will be fine should this not work out. I have already been in a place where I thought that he and OW would move here together and accepted that, it's weird but going back to that place might not be so hard. Plus, I have the bonus (ha) of the OW living five hours away and he can't move out on me right now for financial reasons, so it gives me a good opportunity to do some major DB and GAL. I've seen how my GAL freaks him out...
