Sorry, Leslie, must've got confused re the reading!
Yeah, selfishness is a huge part of this for the WAS, and this may show a part of MLC, especially if it isn't part of their nature. I was shocked at how selfish my H had become. It's like their soul is on vacation. I have pictures of him, taken during that time, and it doesn't even look like him. Weird!
I agree that one should explore every avenue before drastic decisions are made by someone so confused, and in selfish mode, that has huge consequences to the whole family. It certainly is a step in the right direction to get counselling. I am so glad that you are not going to allow him to bring you down. Keep up that PMA (positive mental attitude)!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim