You are so right, BeingMe, I don't buy it either. No one who is truly in touch with their feelings can be such a waffler! Not sure what I meant by taking a reading, did I say that? Anyway, I am not going to let him bring me down. He is wallowing in the fantasy of what is forbidden. The good news is that he has agreed to go to counseling, alone and together, I really don't feel anyone who is so mixed up with EVERY aspect of their life should make decisions with such an effect on so many people, kids included. Thanks again, BeingMe, I appreciate your feedback!!