Trying to stay in Piecing

[BeingMe]

I don't buy it! If he truly loved her, he would know, and he would have no problem leaving. He knew he truly loved you, which is why he is married to you, and was able to make those vows. I believe we end up with the person we made the vows to, because that is the way it's supposed to be. Maybe, I'm old-fashioned. My H thought that maybe he was supposed to be with this high school crush, after spending 20 years with me, telling me how much he loved me, and that we were meant to be together. Of course, I told him how much bs I thought that was. It's all fantasy, and you need to detach from that, but still validate his feelings since they are real to him. Just reiterate that you take your vows seriously, that you don't want a D, that you will continue on with your life, leaving the door open for him, but that you don't know how long that would be. Keep 'hem guessing, don't play their game, be firm but compassionate, keep your boundaries, and keep them off balance by doing real 180's in your behaviour. And, don't believe half of what they tell ya.

I dunno - just my opinion, and thoughts on the matter. What did you mean by taking a reading?

What I think love is .... yes, it is a choice, but it usually starts with a physical attraction, and obsession almost, but after a couple of years, it becomes more .... an unconditional love, that far exceeds the flowery, romantic love (not that that can't be resurrected every now and then). I will never stop loving my H, even if we end up separated. I do know that I have the capacity to love, and I can do it again.