Those here in piecing seem to have so much insight and be so helpful, I am hopeful that at the very least journaling here can help me to stay on track. In a nutshell, me 32, H 34, two sons, 4 & 9. August 05, H tells me he has feelings for someone else, 24yo co-worker, basically between August and December he is back and forth, tells me lets fix this, a week or two later begs off. In Dec. after a month of "working on things" I found out he was still seeing her, she was to move away with him to his new job 150 miles away. I had read DB and other books over and over throughout this time. Xmas weekend, I surprised him with some changes in behaviour/attitude, basically after that he began professing his love for me, blah blah blah, lots of events occur and we end up signing a lease on a home for ALL of us in his new town. We've been here two weeks, and two days ago he tells me that he called OW, can''t stop thinking about her, stil loves her, and is concerened about his lack of intimate interest in me. Now he claims he is trying to decide between the one thing he gets from her and everything else in his life. I can see his turmoil, and feel sad for him, and although neither of us is at a point to make any decisions, I feel I am at a loss as to what to do.
I know from DB that, since moving and knowing noone here, I will have to bust butt to GAL, which is what I had done in our hometown, he took note of that. I am looking for work here, joined a gym, all that stuff. I guess I know what to do and am just looking for feedback or an outlet or??? Any comments or thoughts would be so appreciated!!
