Good post HP. And as for the marital bed, get in and say good night. If he gets up to sleep elsewhere, that is HIS decision. But that is your bed too. Not his. Don't let him make the decision for you. He can either go along with the "right" thing to do, sleep together and really work on the M, or HE can continue to do the wrong thing and bully you, push you away, etc. Don't take part in his dysfunction.
