Quote: I treasure every moment we have in there because it's the only forum where I feel like I have some backup in getting through H's defenses. I can't do it by myself because he won't let me. But without being rude to our MC, he can't avoid her questions entirely.
I completely understand this. And I also completely understand the sense of sitting in the MC's office watching the clock and as the hour comes to a close, y'all haven't even gotten down to the big issues yet. I remember that so well... I always went to the counseling sessions with an agenda: this is what I want to get to. The main reason for this is that I have never had insurance coverage and I wrote a check at the end of each and every counseling session that I have ever attended. (My bf and I used to take turns paying until he was laid off from his job, then I took over.) So when you're writing a check for anywhere from $110 to $165 per session, you want to get your money's worth! Dead air, beating around the bush, hemming and hawing, or whatever expression you want to use for NOT accomplishing anything used to make me furious. To PAY for counseling and then sit there in silence or resist talking about the hard subjects is something I have never understood.
I very much know what you mean about not wanting to "waste" time talking about just you, when He and the R need so much work.
Alas, I never really figured out how to deal with this... now my bf goes to therapy alone, and I KNOW they're not covering things that *I* want them to cover (like lack of sex-- just TOO uncomfortable to discuss). But I'm so tired of pushing this rope uphill... I just have to hope they're making some kind of progress. I doubt very much if my bf goes in there and brings up the tough subjects... oh well, now *I'm* rambling...(and ranting)
