Quote: I'd rather keep my personal development separate from our MC sessions
It is impossible to separate these two things. If what you meant is "I don't want to talk about just me and my issues in the MC sessions," again, I believe that is impossible. YOUR issues and HIS issues constitute the marriage dynamics, so y'all have to talk about them in the MC sessions or elsewhere.
One C that my bf and I went to said her best therapy was when she worked with one person on their own personal issues in the presence of the other person. So we kind of took turns. You have to expose YOU in the MC sessions, not just talk about the R without getting specific about either one of you.
Sorry if this is a bit out of context... I may have missed the larger point. But your statement stuck out, and I wanted to comment on it.
FOO = Family Of Origin, i.e., your own childhood family.
