Thanks guys. I will let his response to the MC appt slide. It reminded me of something I read somewhere in the context of not only do we expect certain things of our partners, but we also expect them to be happy about providing it. Guess it's just too much to ask in some cases.
About the card though, I'm surprised. It didn't occur to me that I shouldn't get one at all. I thought it could be a small gesture to keep the positive momentum going in the R, let him know I was thinking of him, and if I took the approach of saying "I'm happy to have a second chance with you" it could also fill a small need for an apology/acknoledgement that he did not have to give me a second chance. Those are things H seems to still need from me, remorse, regret, etc. Does expressing gratitude that we are still together qualify as a sort of apology?
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
