Glad you are feeling optomistic. I tend to get that feeling on days I have self-esteem C sessions.
"So, we're going when we can, which is I guess better than nothing."
Absolutely. Don't get into a mindset (like I often do) that you MUST do things a certain way. We do what we can and make it work the best we can.
"The reason that's on my mind is because I'm not sure if I should have a plan or ideas on the sessions or if I should just let her lead the topics/sessions."
If this is one of your first sessions, she will probably lead a lot. But I would strongly suggest you make a list of things you think are important to discuss and bring it with you. You can even give the C the list and let her decide what things to talk about and in what order.
It does sound like you are dong what I am an expert on ... conflict avoidance. Your H may "vibe" that you are unhappy about something, but most of the time you've got to make it clear or there is no chance for change. NOTE, I suck at this too so I need to take my own advice.
"The second thing that's on my mind today is that I'm thinking of buying a simple card for H and just writing in it something to the effect of "i'm glad we're trying". I was thinking of putting something in there regarding a second chance. My question to you all is, should I word it as being grateful that he *gave* me a second chance or should I word it more like '*we* have a second chance'?"
I worry that such statements can easily be taken the wrong way. I know my W would take it as prodding or forcing at best, and dissembling at worst (she would assume I was hinting at something else). If I were you, I would just come out and say it directly. "H, I am SOOO glad we are going to MC today. I feel this gives us a chance to jettison the past and rebuild a strong relationship together. I really appreciate you putting forth the effort." Of course, HP or GEL could probably say it better, they are good at that sort of thing.
Good luck today
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
