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There is something your H wants you to figure out. This is the second time you have made mention of a remark made in this same vein.

Well excuse me, but if that's the case, I think that's rather arrogant. I don't sit around trying to solve H's riddles of the day. Sheesh. Ya got something to say, say it. Or else let it go.





You H did let it go for years prior to your EA. According to your posts, he never asked your for anything. Told you everything was 'fine'. Its not cause you were perfectly meeting his needs, he was just giving what he wanted in return.

That tactic didnt work out so well for him. Now he has swung to the complete opposite end of the spectrum and lets you know (or was) about every single thing he doesnt like.

Its not relevant or a solution stating that its arrogant. Everyone, (well there might be one poster here) engages in this behavior of wanting to be understood, figured out. Including you.

and yes you do try to figure out your H's riddles and that is why you are so frustrated. He is not helping you very well with communication that you can understand. But his current actions in response to your behavior is pretty powerful speaking IMO.

I'm not gonna waste too much of my time trying to decipher this as you can't read his mind either.

Ok.

I dont need to read his mind. You describe his actions in concurrance with yours. you relay his comments. They seem very direct, and obvious, to me.

But the season pass to the funpark 'punish Heather untii she can't take anymore' has got to end.

agreed. what is he currently doing that is punishing or abusive.

Last time I suggested that he said 'we weren't ready yet'. Remember, he just wants to 'be nice to each other', as though accomplishing anything more than that is beyond the scope of his master plan.

What is the point of having a master plan if you cant be nice to each other?

Your talking out of both sides of your mouth. You want assurances of long term, as does he, since he responds very well to your speaking about future plans, but then you state if he doenst shape up its over.

I havent seen you post that he does that. He just says 'lets take one day at a time'.

Threats threats threats. That doesnt work with him. Stop doing it.

You keep talking about the fact that it has been 2 years.
2 years since you started your A?
2 years since he discovered it?
2 years that you have implemeneted your current 180's?
I doubt it. Ill check your previous threads though.

how many years before the A were thigs not 'wonderful'.

There is no finger snapping here. This is not a 100 meter dash where every step of the race is counted and known before hand.

I think I will bring this up in C. That we need to focus on the A every session until H no longer wants to discuss it. Everything else gets put on hold. Because we *are* there. It's time.

Im interested to see how this plays out. Looks like a 360 to me.