Am I Creating a SSM?

[koshka]

Heather,

I didn't really mean that I won't talk about how I feel, but that I don't think I should try to push things farther than that right now.

Where'd you get the "avoid cheeseless tunnels" idea? Huh? Where?

Sound like the better part of valor to me.

One of the first things H wanted me to do after I revealed the A was to create a list of things I would do better or wouldn't do anymore, etc.

When I first learned of OM-0, I wanted XW to show something, too. I wanted her to show interest in preserving and strengthening our M. Old story, she didn't, life goes on (very well, I might add), but it doesn't sound like that was your H's focus.

Unfortunately it doesn't seem very realistic, especially when we're dealing with people who have been hurt so deeply that they cannot see past their own pain.

It's not your job, nor even within your capabilities, to make him see beyond his pain. His pain goes back way before your "A" and all you can do, if he does finally face it, is watch. You can't defeat his demons for him, and he does have demons.

H seems to be making so much progress that I really think he may be moving past this now.

Well, make sure he knows you appreciate it. Go for the tunnel with the cheese!

Thanks,

Joe
(Don't read all this stuff about cheese out loud if you're still in Orlando! )