Hey - no BIGGIE. I was not upset by anything that either of you said. It would be different if we were the never had a child/desperately trying etc...situation but we're not. You were both correct in that we are not the typical infertile couple at all. However, like many couples who have been trying to have a baby without success for a year - the whole issue of sex within the fertile window has become hot button. Probably because I am HD I can still get my head and body into a place where sex is not THAT abhorrent to me. The week before the fertile window I actively look forward to it that way my head is in the right place when the time comes. I don't know what H thinks about it because he actually seems surprised every time. In fact, before we got married H knew the basics of female anatomy but not a whole lot about the whole cycle. He pretty much thought that pregnancy could occur throughout the cycle except for during menses. Now, he has had his tutorial so it shouldn't be a surprise.
Right now we are in peak time of the fertile window and due to business and family reasons I can see that H is totally wiped out. I have already mentally absolved him of the disinterest that is sure to follow. The thing I hate is how he won't address it directly. He made a BIG point of saying how tired he was since he worked late two nights in a row and how he is going straight to bed (maybe without dinner) tonight because he has to get up tomorrow and go help his disabled friend in the yard for a few hours. So...what he is in effect saying is "K, I know we are in the fertile window and I know we have to have sex but what I'm gonna do is lay there and provide the erection and you do the rest." Folks, it ain't worth all that. I would rather forgo the chance to get pg this cycle. Maybe, if he would approach me adult to adult, "Honey, I'm really tired. Do you think we can just forgo this cycle or try tomorrow night and hope it's enough. I'm just wiped out and I really want sex to be fun and mutual and tonight it just wouldn't be." However, I'm left to interpret and make my own conclusions.
Anyway, Lil and Bf I value your advice and you both knew enough of my sitch that it wasn't out of line. Don't sweat it.
The week before the fertile window I actively look forward to it that way my head is in the right place when the time comes. I don't know what H thinks about it because he actually seems surprised every time. In fact, before we got married H knew the basics of female anatomy but not a whole lot about the whole cycle. He pretty much thought that pregnancy could occur throughout the cycle except for during menses. Now, he has had his tutorial so it shouldn't be a surprise.