You have made some very good points here. However, the numbers given by the RE were specifically based upon OUR situation not the averages. We are in a secondary infertility situation and my numbers are all very good -my age isn't.
H has not had the test you mentioned and if we can't get things done through IUI after a try or two it might be worth pursuing. H is a triathlete but runs the short distance ones, doesn't train at the kind of level you are talking about and doesn't wear the traditional triathlete gear (his shorts are loose running shorts, not bike shorts) and no he doesn't hot tub afterward. So...his activity level is unlikely to be the culprit. The doc seems to believe that the mc's are likely due to egg quality (given that I usually get and stay pregnant easily but that I was younger then - DS14, DD8, DDalmost 2). I do agree that male factor isn't looked into that seriously and I do think that more testing of H might be in order if things don't work out.
Do you plan to try for another? My heart honestly goes out to people who are having to really go for broke with all of this fertility stuff because it really sux. And it isn't a matter of relax and let it happen or have more sex and it will happen. For a lot of people it takes a great deal of intervention. I have a friend who will need donor sperm and a donor egg to make it work - she has a problem and her H has a DNA problem too.
Karen
BF,
How HD am I really? Let's just say if I could use all this as an excuse to make H boink me daily I would. Unfortunately, I know too much about statistics, biology and ob/gyn - it would be a misrepresentation of our chances to have another child. Otherwise, I would just say, "Hey H, I heard that if we do it everyday our chances would triple!"
