Have you ever thought about just letting it all go. everything. I understand NFP and taking temps yada yada, when you want to AVOID pregnancy.
But if you want to get preggers, well it seems to happen pretty regulary without anyones keeping an eye on things. KWIM? Your H wants to have a kid. Cool. Your ok with it. Cool How about just telling your H if you want to have a kid then lets boink like bunnies untill it happens. Or H lets chill out and just have sex whenever we want too. (may kill a couple birds with one stone) If it does happen great. If not ....well give it a couple months... or more. depends on how HD you really are. LOL. The fertility stuff is a serious time investment too. Seriously.
Just 'get it on' often, and let nature take its course. Seems cheaper, funnier (yeah I said that), and time spent in a better place bed, bathroom, shower, office, wherever, then the clinic.... with needles, and poking and proddings... the wrong kind.
seems like NFP to me. letting it go. lettin it happen.
Ok, this is really, REALLY bad advice, and acutally quite offensive to anyone who either has, or has had a fertility problem. Its dismissive of the fact that there IS IN FACT, a problem. Infertility is very "real". its not in your head. its not simply a matter of "boinking like bunnies". People don't go through this process without doing all that, first. you go to the doc when "let it happen" didn't work. It is caused by very real, very legitimate medical problems that require professional medical intervention to overcome.
there. I had to say it. I mean no offense (and I know you didn't, either), but you can't possibly understand this unless you've been through it. so, best to just let it go.
Now..Karen: your "success rate" numbers are WAY off. more realistically, the success rates are half of what you stated. 25% success w/ ivf, at the very best clinics. iui...very much lower. One thing that set off an alarm for me is the mention that your DH is a tri-athlete. The alarm gets very much louder now that you've mentioned mc's. Since fertility doc's (RE's) are essentially "gynecologists", they tend to ignore the male 50% of the fertility equation. I know, they SAY they don't...but they do. Believe me, I've been there. They totally ignored an obvious male-factor issue with me, that almost did us in. This, like other things, was something that can NOT be seen with a simple semen analysis. The number, movement, and shape of sperm is NOT enough information to form a diagnosis of a man's fertility...but often, thats all they do. There is a relatively new test that looks directly at the quality of the sperm's DNA, which has a direct correlation on fertility. The problem that this test looks for can be the cause of mc's...very early mc's or "chemical pregnancies", because the male dna doesn't start to come into play for several days after fertilization. So a positive pg can result, but fail very very early. One of the things that can cause this problem with dna is heat. it damages the dna. The male reproductive system is very heat sensitive...and triathlets tend to have theirs exposed to a fair amount of it. particularly if they use a hot-tub after a workout...but even without that, the activity, the clothing, the exercise, which can only be described as "extreme", is enough to heat up the boyz beyond their normal limit. if this is a problem, and heat is the source, he'd have to stop this kind of activity for 3 months to even begin to see a difference. might take even longer before a stock of unaffected sperm can be manufactured...which is alot to give up for someone so athleticly inclined. couple of links where you can read about it: http://www.ivf.com (I've talked w/ Dr. Perloe at length about this stuff).
LOL. The fertility stuff is a serious time investment too. 