Quote: a terrible time at the ball if you don't arrive with your dance card already filled
This is where the analogy breaks down, because in a dancing situation, you CAN go to a ball where other partners are available, presumably other GOOD partners for you. IRL in a committed R, you've promised to dance only with THIS partner.
Anyway, this analogy was meant to address the issue of experiencing yourself as sexual in the absence of a partner (which believe me, I can do)-- however to experience yourself as a sexual PARTNER, you have to have a PARTNER.
