I understand clearly how this kind of philosophy would help you be happier in general and happier with your general R. Out of curiosity, what has been the net effect on your sex life? The fact that you don't initiate at all - do you have sex any more than when you did, is it more of a shared experience? I understand that you didn't change your philosophy in order to create a certain change in your sl. I am just curious what, if any, the change has been.
Last night, knowing that we had ml 2 night in a row (and knowing that I would have still enjoyed sexual contact but it was a cheeseless tunnel), I worked out extra hard, showered, put on a really nice fragranced lotion, a pretty silk nightie and snuggled with H. It was nice. I would be better able to enjoy it however, if I didn't consider the night after a week where we ml three times to be the beginning of the famine to come. I really have trouble when I suspect that the famine is coming on. Actually, it won't come yet because we are going on vacation and H is always ready for vacation sex - sometimes even twice in one day but if we weren't going on vacation we probably wouldn't ml for two weeks. It would take some pretty fancy mental gymnastics for me to be happy with H's all or none philosophy though I can appreciate the wisdom of coming to terms with it.
