Quote: Do you initiate sex now. What happens if your H responds poorly?
I don't initiate sex. The simplest explanation for why I don't is that I've determined that it is a cheeseless tunnel and I am too lazy to run down cheeseless tunnels. IMO there are three kinds of work you can do in relationship. You can work to get what you feel like you need/want from the relationship, you can work to give your partner what you think they should or might need/want or you can work to give your partner what they have clearly expressed that they need/want. My working theory is that you are going to have a better relationship if you put your limited energy into the latter and a lot more free time to breed dahlias, daytrade stocks, play with the kids, lay on the beach etc.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
