Well, to use Mojo's analogy about being a nutritious oatmeal cookie with surprise chocolate chips inside - H has been eating his oatmeal cookie and liking it. We have ml three times in the last week and it has been very connected, erotic and loving. No - we haven't done anything new but I feel that I have put more of myself out there and so has he. It does happen to coincide with our house being put back together again -just a few minor details left. I would like to think that the reason for the sitch was the housefire and all the stress but experience tells me otherwise. Experience tells me that a SSM is our status quo and that regular, connected sex is the rare but enjoyable exception. I still have to talk with him about our sl in general and how porn affects it in specific.
The thing I am currently wondering is - if we are capable of wonderful, connected sex then what causes us to revert to either miserable, unconnected sex or not having sex at all. Instead of asking why don't we have sex more often? and better sex more often? I am wondering why do we have such good sex sometimes? I don't buy the theory that it just so happens that H hasn't mb that week or that I was the kinder/gentler me or that we have less stress. What makes those times that we connect in such a sublime manner?
