Quote: Mama, I would urge you to let your H out of this if he grumbles or complains about it at all. If he feels "forced" to go in any way, then you're only pressuring and pursuing. That's not DB at all and it probably won't help -- just cause him to rebel more.
Update, told him about counselor and he sounded ok until I said our appt. was tonight - he "grumbled" Then he found out couselor was a man - he'd prefer a woman. Found out we would be together - would rather go alone. He says it is hard to be brutally honest with me because I get defensive.
