If there are underlying issues that need to be addressed seperately them he will do that.
Sounds good. My advice then is to NOT push for any clarification as to what your H wants (D or no-D, etc...) Also, don't push to have a joint session anytime soon. In fact, you might insist that you could use some individual sessions yourself to begin with in which you could work on your need to control the situation and on how to focus on taking care of yourself and your own happiness.
