Quote: I believe that forcing MC with a P who is not invested in trying to save the M does more harm than good for everyone involved. He has stated very clearly that he has no interest in pursuing a husband-wife R with you right now.
Ok, I guess I get this if you look at it from the perspective of forcing MC being just like buying them "how to save your marriage" books but is there more to this idea than that? What I don't really understand, and this may be specific to Mama's case, is that her H is agreeing to go to a counselor. I don't get that she is forcing him to do so other than seeing ANYTHING he does to "work on the marriage" as coerced at this point because he is clearly (I guess) not ready to do that. I understand they are not "in a marriage" by some definitions, but you have to start somewhere, don't you? Aren't many couples that go to MC in a similar situation to Mama and it works for them?
I guess I am also, once again, projecting my sitch into this because IF my W ever went to MC it would be her choice. I too would jump at that chance because I believe it would allow us to express things that we are just not comfortable doing by ourselves...yet. Isn't that the point of MC, to get a "impartial" person involved to mediate and help each partner express themselves in a more "safe" environment?
I am sincerely asking questions here because I don't know.
