Ok, I feel I have to strike while the iron is hot. Since my H agreed to talk with a professional I made an appt. for this evening with a marriage couselor. This is not the same one I was seeing before, I want to start fresh so as my H does not feel like we have conspired against him. This is also a man, so maybe he will feel comfortable opening up with him. I want to do this before he has a chance to tell the OW and she talks him out of this.