Quote: Please, gather yourself and THEN make decisions.
This is probably the most important piece of advice here.
When someone gets 'slapped' the first thing they tend to do is slap right back. You must resist the temptation to 'slap back' and think about the situation. To me, this is the real meaning of 'turn the other cheek.' Don't respond emotionally at the moment. Take time time to think about your response, or 'gather yourself' as Grasshopper says. I tend to agree: you and H are getting to the heart of the matter, and it hurts like a MF, but it's necessary. It's like lancing a boil: the pressure is off now. You'll be able to talk about it in a while. I'd take the advice here, back off a bit and let the dust settle.
David
The fires of true love can never be quenched, because the source of its flame is God Himself! - Shulamith
